Monday, December 7, 2015

Christmas Gift Guide Under $25: The Under 2 Crowd

Want Need Wear Read for the Under 2 Crowd

Oh, for the love of Moses!  I started this "series" with plenty of time to spare aaaaaand now it's the second week of December.  So probably you've got the Christmas list thing covered, but on the off chance you're as behind as me, behold: a few ideas for your littlest ones.

  • A subscription to BabyBug Magazine from Cricket Media.  (They're beautiful board books!)
  • Design your own board book with photos of your baby's favorite people.
  • A fun Scanimation book.
  • This is Merrin's favorite book!  He tries to bite the puppy.  :(
Do you fuss much about babies at Christmas?  The wrapping paper seems to be their favorite part! 

Wednesday, December 2, 2015

So. Damn. Tired.

Apparently, I missed the memo that No Money November was also No Sleep November.  But my boys didn't.  Ronan thinks he's outgrowing his afternoon naps, which means no writing for this mama.  Also no peace.  Merrin naps like a champ (when Ronan doesn't wake him up), but he has started waking up four, five and six times a night for no discernable reason.  And we are still living in our little one-bedroom rental, so anything that keeps one of us awake at night keeps us all awake at night.  Friends, I'm spent!  And more than that, I'm tired of being tired.  I'm tired of complaining about being tired.  I'm desperate ready for some advice about the sleeping.  What's working at your house?  Please, send hope my way.  Also, coffee.  

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Wednesday, November 11, 2015

Christmas Gift Guide Under $25: Preschool Boy

Christmas Gift Guide Under $25

Oh, I know it.  I'm saying the C-word and we haven't even hit Thanksgiving.  Hell, we have barely recovered from Halloween!  But even though it's too early to start celebrating Christmas, plenty of us have already started budgeting for Christmas.  And by budgeting, I mean worrying about how No Money November is going to offer us up some extra dough for gift shopping.  :)  Reality check: it probably isn't.  So I'm working on a want-need-wear-read budget-friendly Christmas gift guide series.  First up: things that make Ronan's heart go boom-boom, for the rowdy preschool boy in your life.  Bonus: each item is $25 or less.
  • Minions.  (I'm secretly stoked to see this too!)
  • Ronan is obsessed with numbers and counting right now.  He would fall over for this counting and sorting activity.
  • Small box of Legos = endless hours of fun and vacuuming.
  • Remember Play-Doh Fun Factories?  Ronan made me think of him when he was shouting "Mom!  Look!  Meat worms!" as he watched with rapturous joy as the elk squirted out of the meat grinder.  It's the simple things...
  • A horse hopper for blowing off steam when he's stuck inside.  (Sabrey says these really take a beating!)
  • A basic, hard-wearing winter hat.  It's extra cool because it looks just like Dad's.
  • Scott's grandma still has the Sit-and-Spin he and his sister played with as kids.  Ditto the reason for the hopper horse.
  • An age-appropriate maze book for quiet play.  No, seriously. 
  • Comfy jammies that double as long underwear.
  • Stick-gun, hay, and snow friendly mittens for when Mom kicks him outside sends him out to play.
  • A scarf he can do all by himself.
  • A kid-sized headlamp for hunting, evening chores, and blanket forts.
What's doing it for the little dudes in your life?  And moms of preschool girls, help me out!  I'd love to hear what's on your list.  It's all boy around here...

Monday, November 2, 2015

November Happiness Project: Aim Higher

Okay.  It's time for me to face the music.  October passed in a blur of preschool, elk hunting, sniffles, and Harry Potter and it's freaking November already.

Here's something honest about the first month of my year-long happiness project: it was kind of a flop.  Yes, I took my vitamins more often than I didn't, and I got dressed most of the time, but the rest of it just didn't happen.  I tried mightily to wake up before the boys to have a little time to myself, but nearly every time Merrin woke up early too, and I just ended up frustrated.  So, very little yoga or writing was accomplished.   But on those totally aggravating mornings that I fought to get Merrin back to sleep (and in doing so, woke up Ronan) I reminded myself that it won't be like this forever.  I won't wake up to Merrin flopping his warm baby body across my neck for much longer, and soon Ronan won't come straight from his bed to mine for a snuggle first thing in the morning.  Drawing my awareness to how I wake up each morning has made it easier for me to remind myself to love it for what it is, while it lasts.  And I wouldn't have don't that if I had successfully popped out of bed alone each morning.  I read this post a few days ago, and while I can totally relate to the faux-thought thing Mel Joulwan is describing, what really stuck with me is her self-preservation mantra "Now is not the time."  I've been thinking lately about how oppressive it can feel to have goals, even if they're as simple as get up early every day, when you have small children in the house.  They take the control out of your hands, and that's infuriating.  But I've been reminding myself when I am confronted by the impossibility of what I want to undertake that perhaps now is just not the time.  I'm not incapable, my kids aren't jerks, I don't have to choose between what I want for myself and the kind of parent I want to be.  Now is just not the time for lofty goals AND great hair.  It's the time to raise little boys and do what I can.  And I'm happy with that.

November's Happiness Project theme is marriage in Rubin's book, but I'm holding off on those goals for a month less congested by other projects.  November is also National Novel Writing Month and I just joined a local writing group to push me in my writing, so I'd like to focus this month on "aiming higher" as Rubin puts it.  My goals this month are simple: participate to best of my ability and the limits of my kids' tolerance in NaNoWriMo (and thereby improve my writing), and reinstate regular meal planning/preparation sessions that keep our weeknights sane and our bellies full (and thereby run a tighter ship at home).  I said simple, but not easy; NaNoWriMo pushes you to write a 50,000 word novel in a month (!) and Merrin has learned how to climb on the kitchen stools so he is in ALL THE THINGS ALL THE TIME.  So, wish me luck.  :)

Let's catch up: how was your October?  Any happiness project success or failure?  Any sweet costumes or delicious pumpkin recipes?  Post pics and links on Facebook or comment below!

Thursday, October 1, 2015

October: Boost Energy (!!!)

Whaat?!!  It's already October!!!  That means two things: I don't have to wear shorts anymore (whoop whoop!) and it's time to dive into the Happiness Projects Jill and I have been brewing.

Wow, based on the number of exclamation points I used in those first two sentences, I'd have to say it's already working.  :) 

Here is my plan for the upcoming year (!) of Happiness Project posts: I'll outline my goals and the projects I'm planning at the beginning of each month, and I'll come back at the end of the month with some thoughts about how it went and what I'll be carrying forward.  Throughout the month, I'll keep up with my normal absolutely-random posting schedule in which we will discuss all the things.

Okay?  Okay.  Here goes.

October: Boost Energy
  • Remember my damn vitamins.  Every day.  They give me a nice little kick when I do take them, but I'm terrible at remembering.  Mostly I notice when I don't take them.
  • Drink at least a liter of water.  I am the worst at staying hydrated, and I know it takes a toll on  my energy level.  One liter probably isn't enough, but I usually have a few cups of (decaf) tea every day too.  One liter of just water feels attainable. 
  • Yoga every day.  This one will be tough; my kids think yoga time means time to use mom as a jungle gym.    I started my day off this morning with some (very stiff) sun salutations and I have to admit, I feel pretty fabulous right now.  I'd like to try this YouTube series:
  • Quit complaining about being tired.  I find myself saying this to Scott all the time.  Like he isn't tired!  Instead, I'd like to focus on a positive, like "I really worked hard today" or, in the case of multiple night wakings, "I'm parenting at night the way I choose to."  Rubin says if we act the way we want to feel, we will actually feel that way. 
  • Wake up earlier.  I know less sleep sounds like it will do the opposite of boosting my energy, but I've noticed that the less time I have to myself, the more drained I feel.  And when I get woken up by two rowdy boys climbing into my bed, I start off the day super grouchy.  My goal is to wake up at 6:00AM (waaaah!) each weekday this month and spend the hour and half before the boys wake up doing yoga, drinking coffee and writing.  In peace. 
  • Cut back to half-caff.  Also seems counterintuitive, but I've been drinking coffee strong enough to keep an ox awake for a week.  Not sure how that happened.  Of course, too much caffeine makes me irritable and then gives me a huge blood sugar crash.  So, less is more here.
  • Get dressed.  As a stay-at-home mom, I am free to wear whatever the heck I want, but I have noticed that on the days that I do shower and put on real pants, I feel more prepared and I procrastinate my chores less. 
  • Keep the surfaces of my house clear.  That means the kitchen island, the top of my dresser, and the bathroom counter.  When those places are clear of clutter I am way more likely to dive into my chores (which gives me a sense of accomplishment and therefore an energy boost) and to take on a creative project (which gives me a big mental energy boost.)  There are far more than three surfaces in my house, but these are the biggies.
  • Cut back on digital media.  I feel like I already addressed this with last week's experiment, but I want to remain aware of how much time I spend on my phone.  My goal is 30 minutes OR LESS of online reading/shopping/bill paying per day, not including time spent blogging.  Because blogging makes me happy, and that's the whole point.  :)
That's it!  No big deal, right?  Haha.  I know it's a big list but each task requires very little time in itself.  I'm not going to keep a chart like Rubin did, but I am going to write these goals at the top of my kitchen calendar where I will see them every day. 

Okay, enough about me.  If you're doing your own Happiness Project with us, weigh in!  What goals do you have to boost your energy this month?  What are you already doing to stay focused and clear?  How much coffee are you really drinking?  ;)

Wednesday, September 30, 2015

I Turned Off My Data for a Week: Here's What Happened

Last week,  I downloaded an app that tracks my number of screen unlocks and total usage time on my phone. I felt like maybe I had been too distracted with my phone lately, and I wanted some accountability.  On my first day I clocked 30-some unlocks and over an hour and a half of time!  That's ridiculous!  The whole reason we don't have TV is because it's a mindless waste of time, but here I am with what amounts to a TV in my hand all the time.  The next day, I turned the data off on my phone and kept it off for a week, turning it back on only once a day to check for important email (like bills, boo!).  I wasn't expecting my mini digital breakup to be any sort of revelation, but you guys.  It was.  Here's what I learned:
  • I reach for my phone when I get overwhelmed with my kids.  They get irritating, and I look for an escape in Pinterest or Facebook.  They can tell, of course, that I'm checked out and not paying attention to them; they ratchet up their attention-getting behavior (rarely positive) and I get more frustrated.  I'd do better to take us all outside for a bit to reset.
  • A few minutes of scrolling here and there add up over a day.
  • When I'm scrolling Facebook or Pinterest, I'm rarely actually engaging in what I read.  Even the stuff I'm interested in reading I'm only skimming.  I get more of the intellectual stimulation I'm looking for when I choose just a few articles or posts to read and really read them. 
  • Alerts and notifications are incredibly distracting even when you don't pick up your phone.
  • Time spent waiting (at preschool pick-up, in the Dr.'s office, etc) is valuable transition time from one activity to the next.  When I fill it up with internet-ness, I don't get that transition, and my day feels far more draining and overwhelming.  I'm also way more likely to be flustered and forget things.
  • I hadn't realized how all that scrolling and scanning affected my mood.  I tend to be pretty anxious anyway, but being bombarded by tragic news, snarky posts and obnoxious ads really weighs on me mentally.  I felt much calmer and happier without all that.
Facebook and Pinterest seem to be the biggest "fluff" use of my phone time, and I did seriously consider just deleting my accounts and calling it a day.  But I want to keep my blog's page open so I can connect with readers there, and I do actually use the recipes and ideas I've pinned.  I'll keep them around, but on a leash; I'm leaving the app on my phone to make sure I don't get sucked in for too long.  My phone is useful, I'll not deny that, but I hate the idea of my boys remembering me hunched over a screen and oblivious to them.

On a related note, this article made me wince. 

Have you tried a digital break-up?  Would you?

Thursday, September 24, 2015

Happiness Project News and a Little Light Reading

Thank you all so much for your supportive comments, texts, and emails Monday.  It was a thrill to see my work published outside of my own blog, but it was a far greater reward to connect with you all.  I'm working toward a few other publication possibilities, which is fun and feels so much more validating than folding clothes and wiping counters.  But it's also intimidating and makes me feel a little silly; at least folding laundry and cleaning counters is work that needs done, you know? I'm still sorting out how I feel about it all.

Several months ago (has it been that long?!) I shared a few thoughts about Gretchen Rubin's The Happiness Project.  Since then, I've read Happier at Home as well, and both left me itching to address happiness and fulfillment in my own life... in a totally systematic, type A way, of course, which is what I love about Rubin's books: she takes a smooshy, nebulous thing and hammers it with data and charts and experiments until she can measure real happiness output.  She's my kind of gal.  Anyway, I sent the book to Jill and after reading it she's feeling all itchy too.  We decided to take on our own happiness projects, following Rubin's yearlong outline but subbing in projects and experiments that have relevance in our own lives.  We'll start in October and keep you posted on our individual blogs. 

Some of you have expressed an interest in taking on your own happiness projects along with us.  Love that idea!  Do it!  No blog required, of course.  We would love to hear what you're doing and how it's working out; please keep in touch and let us know!  Comments on the blog mean everyone can learn from what you're doing, or stop by and we'll chat over coffee while my kids tear the house down around us.  What, that doesn't sound like a relaxing morning?  ;) 

I've been in a word-hungry, pensive mood lately, so I've racked up a serious pile of links to share if you're in a reading mood. 

I love these fall Waldorf verses for mealtime, bedtime, all the time...

I don't know much about poetry, but this poem hits the nail on the head.

Marie Kondo answers questions about how The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up applies to kids.

This approach to sharing makes so much sense.

Our children are literally a part of us.

This powerful post has me scrutinizing how much time I spend on my phone.  I confess: it's a lot.  I downloaded an app that times my phone usage so I can't deny it.  :) 

On that note, I'm starting my own digital breakup right now.  From now until October 1 (when I'll be back with the start of my happiness project) I'm turning the data off on my phone and focusing on writing and being present.  I'm still available by phone or text, and I'll check email once a day.  Otherwise, expect radio silence here until next week!

Have a lovely weekend!